"One of the tasks of true friendship is to listen compassionately and creatively to the hidden silences. Often secrets are not revealed in words, they lie concealed in the silence between the words or in the depth of what is unsayable between two people" -John O'Donohue, AnamCara: The Book of Celtic Wisdom
We are both works in progress, each moms of three and partners to one. We are both oldest daughters and sisters to brothers. We are recovering perfectionists and people pleasers. We are lovers of food, family and conversation, seekers of knowledge, and researchers of life. We both strive for balance, crave adventure, run on love, and share a passion for helping others make the world a better place. We’ve each taken a different path: One of us married while in college, the other after work experience and graduate school. Our friendship was born out of shared interests, passions and ways of being in the world.
In 2016, Ana’s 16-year-old son took his life. Kerri was there when she found him and she knew at that devastating, life-altering, and most tragic moment, that she would not let Ana go through this alone. Kerri has walked along side of Ana as a friend, parent, woman and human, knowing that Ana being alone was not a possibility.
Great loss and grief have given us an opportunity to reflect, learn, and connect with others. We have chosen to learn from heartache and to face it head-on with compassion, realizing there are so many others suffering and trying to do the same thing. We are grateful to have each other as we travel this road. In our healing, we’ve been seeking knowledge- researching all over the world, talking with people, and gaining understanding, resources and tools. We have identified needs and gaps and are working to figure out how we can fill them in with new found understanding- bringing information to others and beginning important conversations. It’s amazing what happens when we come together.
Everyone has a story. We all struggle and experience hardship and loss, but many do so alone. Sometimes we choose to be private about our struggles and other times we reach out to others- it’s a choice we make. It is always validating to realize that we are not alone in our challenges.
On our shared journey, we’ve been learning to navigate the waves of life and tides of parenthood with transparency and vulnerability. We’ve realized that the best we can do is accept and love our imperfect selves and support each other in the process. We are choosing to celebrate being perfectly imperfect and to encourage that in others.
As part of a larger community, we’ve learned that the stresses many of us feel are universal and come with the times. We want to offer resources and tools that all can use and are dedicated to providing guidance, hope and inspiration for when you need it.
Connect, be well, and know that you are not alone.
mindfulSLO, our local think-tank, was created in the process of researching, connecting, seeking resources, asking questions, and wanting to fill in the gaps. We had a need to better understand what was missing and how we could seek solutions and create change. Our writing is a local offering of our research and our way of helping create dialogue between parents, students, and our community. It's our way to encourage all to connect and be well.
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